Advocate For the Breastfeeding Boob! And the Babies Attached to Them..



The Breastfeeding Supermum!



Wow, has breastfeeding been in the news lately! First with Liana's pool "incident" Liana's Nurse-In and now Dave Kochi's comments The Media Fire Storm it has been non stop support and criticism for not only Liana but for all of the other breastfeeding mums out there (who happen to have to feed their babies out in public *gasp* how obscene)!!!!

So why is it so important to advocate for breastfeeding women? Why do I spend so many of my waking moments supporting and advocating breastfeeding rights of the mother and baby? And no, it's not because I'm bored or insane.

Breastfeeding is a HUMAN RIGHTS ISSUE.  Yes, it sounds dramatic and special doesn't it? Well it is! Every breastfed being whether they are 3 months old or 3 years old, have the right to breastfeed whenever and wherever they like.  Thankfully many countries have laws now (including Queensland, Australia where Liana's pool excitement happened) which protects a woman's right to breastfeed.  You can be sitting on the edge of a pool (where other non- breastfeeding boobs are half out yet no one says a word) or you can be sitting in the middle of a cafe. 

In Queensland breastfeeding is a right not a privilege, according to the law.  So what does this mean for breastfeeding mothers? How do we respond if we are approached and told to, "cover up" or "go to the toilet?"  A simple, "no thanks we are comfortable here" is sufficient.  If you go back to someone with an aggressive comment such as, "why don't you go eat YOUR dinner in the toilet?!" it just feeds the already big flame coming from the complainer. 

We won't change their minds, all we can do is continue to feed our babies so we can support other women out there who do, or want to do the same.

**There is no need to defend yourself or move to a different area. Not only do you not have to move to a different area but you don't have to feel bad about it or defend yourself.  WHEN YOU FEEL GOOD ABOUT YOUR DECISION (SUCH AS BREASTFEEDING IN PUBLIC) YOU DO NOT HAVE TO DEFEND YOURSELF TO ANYONE! Just go about your day doing what you do best as a breastfeeding mum...follow the lead of your baby and feed them when they are hungry no matter where you are.**

We do not have to feel embarrassed or disgraced! We do not have to feel humiliated or pressured! In the past I have felt humiliated when I was asked to go to the toilet to feed my middle boy when he was only one week old. I did not know how to stand up for myself.  Or when I felt the need in the past to explain why I was still breastfeeding my three year old, or felt as though I had to defend demand feeding or feeding for comfort.  Now after years of practise I have let go of those ties that hold me back.  I don't breastfeed as a statement. I breastfeed to meet the needs of my baby.  Hunger, comfort, boredom and whatever other reason he might want to breastfeed for at that time. 

Who cares about the reason?! He just wants the boob. Not much more to it...

As for all of those negative comments flooding social media, I will not waste my time  and energy responding.  I will not waste my precious moments (you know those times we need to actually go pee without a baby at our feet or eat without standing up) defending myself to those who have made negative comments about my breastfeeding in public...because I don't need to defend myself and neither do you!

My posted pic on Kochis' Facebook wall

Just get out there and breastfeed your children.  It's the most powerful way to respond.  That's why I'm so happy Liana organised the nurse-in at Bribie Island pool!! And it won't give you a brain aneurysm like Facebook will do when reading and responding to negative un-supportive comments (and believe me I definitely got a few of those when I put my breastfeeding pic up on Kochi's Facebook page).

You may call me a breastfeeding obsessed hippy! You may call me a breastfeeding crazed woman! You may call me a formula hater! I am not any of those things...it's actually  much more boring than that. When my baby is hungry or cranky or bored or tired or happy I'd like to be able to feed him.  And I'd like other mums to be able to do the same.

As I've mentioned before, and I'll mention again...breastfeeding at home, in a cafe, at the shops, at the park, in the pool, in the shower, at the cinemas, in front of your grandparents, in swimwear, underwear, boob in boob out blah blah blah...is

BORINGLY NORMAL. AND AWESOME!

 

To read more about the Bribie Island Nurse-In click on the following link, Calling All Lactating Women!

*Have you been discriminated against as a pregnant or breastfeeding woman? Click on this link to Make a complaint.

Calling All Lactating Women! The Bribie Island Nurse-In

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Extra! Extra! Read All About it!

The Sunday Mail 20th January 2013

The Sunshine Coast Daily 20th January 2013

On the 12th of January, 2013 Liana Webster took her three kids to her local pool.  While she was sitting there breastfeeding her eleven month old and watching her other two children swim, an employee walked over to her and told her she wasn't allowed to feed there, that she had to "refrain from feeding out in the open."  Click on this link for more info: Liana's Story in The Courier Mail.  This pic above (from the Herald Sun) shows us breastfeeding mums who came to the nurse-in. Liana is at the front in the black shirt, I am behind her breastfeeding my little one.

As a breastfeeding mum who has experienced a similar situation myself (which I write about in my breastfeeding in public post, The Boob Hangs Out) I know the humiliation that comes along with being asked to breastfeed in the toilet or cover up.  This "issue" of breastfeeding in public should not even be an "issue." 

I was interviewed by a few different media people at the nurse-in that was organized by Liana and every time I spoke to someone I mentioned the same point over and over, "if you feel as though a woman needs to be 'discreet' or move to a private spot to breastfeed then you are sexualising her breasts! It is YOUR problem.  Women have breasts for one purpose only, to feed our babies.  It's as simple as that." 

Here is some of the media coverage from the day:

From The Sunshine Coast Daily,  Nurse-In Website Article

From the Herald Sun, Nurse-In

My friend Kellie Bradfield came along to take some pictures.  She is not only a photographer, but also a former breastfeeding mum who breastfed all three of her kids and wanted to support Liana as well as all of the other breastfeeding mums out there. You can find her Facebook page here, Kellie.  Here are some great pics she took from the day...

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He Signed Milk! The How and Why of Baby Sign Language...

I remember the first time I heard about baby sign language.  I was about twenty years old and a college student studying psychology.  I was babysitting a little eight month old and her mum told me she was teaching her sign language.  She showed me the sign for "food" and asked me to sign to her little girl every time I fed her a spoonful of food.  I was really intrigued and thought it was so cool that babies could actually learn to sign before they could talk.  They have the capability to communicate very clearly before their language develops.  A couple of years later when I had my first little boy I remembered this experience which led me to teaching my own baby sign language. 

He has just started to sign "milk" and "all done."  It's really amazing to see them sign and be able to communicate without getting frustrated.  There are many months in between their desire to communicate and being able to effectively communicate what they feel through words.  Teaching them sign language allows them the opportunity to do this very clearly without the frustration. 

I know there are others out there like myself who are visual learners.  I have looked up various videos of baby sign language throughout the years.  Below are a few videos I have recorded of different signs we have been teaching our baby.  There are many more you can do. We started signing to him when he was about six months old and now at eight months he is just starting to get it! Have a look at the videos so you can learn and start teaching your own baby.



This first video is of my middle boy showing my baby how to sign "book."  I love this video because after he signs it once I ask him to sign it again to him.  He of course puts on a shocked and devastated face and starts complaining. Classic!

This next video is of my husband showing our baby the sign for "dog."  Our dog and cat are very popular around our house...especially with the baby. He loves them.

Here I am signing "food"  He LOVES food and will probably sign this any day now! Besides breastfeeding, eating solids is pretty much his favourite activity.

Here I am signing "milk" and breastfeeding at the pool!

                                         

OK, I know I sound like a total dork in this video...here I am signing "no."

This is the sign for "up." I always sign this to him before I pick him up.

Here is a link to a chart of different signs for your baby.  There are different variations of baby sign depending on where you look.  It doesn't really matter as long as you and your baby know what you're each trying to say!

Baby Sign Language Chart

If you would like to look at some really interesting research you can look at the work by Dr. Linda Acredolo and Dr. Susan Goodwyn.  They have written a book titled, "How to Talk with Your Baby Before Your Baby Can Talk."  There has been a longitudinal study which showed really amazing results. Parents who followed the Baby Sign program had children who spoke sooner, were ahead of their peers and had a higher IQ!  This is not the reason I have signed with my babies though. I just started doing it because it's  really cool to see your baby sign to you!

Start by incorporating a few signs into the day with your baby, and have fun!

The beloved nap time...how do I get my breastfed attached at the hip and boob baby to take longer naps?

Recently my seven month old decided he did not want to nap for longer than thirty minutes. He would look like this picture, so peaceful and dreamy. And then he would wake up. He would wake up either a. happy as could be or b. upset and wanting to breastfeed but after breastfeeding would be wide awake and happy. 

I either a. cried or b. vented to my husband each night about the complete and total exhaustion I was feeling because of it.  He would then sleep in 30 to ninety minute chunks at night. 

READ: I WAS NOT GETTING MORE THAN ONE AND A HALF HOURS OF UNINTERRUPTED SLEEP FOR TWO WEEKS STRAIGHT! 

Here is an illustration I drew of how I was feeling during this time...as you can see I'm an awesome artist.

I was also getting ready to have eight people over for Christmas Day.  This is how I felt on Christmas Day from lack of sleep...

When the first lot of relatives arrived for Christmas lunch I was still in my pj's and had not showered yet!

Now I am thankfully back to normal as he has decided to start napping again! Yay for me!

We are all looking for that magical answer....how do I get my baby to nap longer during the day?  Here is the magical answer....I actually have no idea what the magical answer is! But I do have some tips that have worked for me at various times with various babies to get them to nap longer.  Does it always work, no.  But sometimes it does! Then I rejoice and have some peace and quiet during the day for a bit longer to do all of those exciting things us mums and dads at home get to do...laundry, cooking, cleaning and occasionally getting to sit down and eat, instead of standing at the counter.

1.  First and foremost breastfeed your baby back to sleep if they wake up after a short nap.  With my eldest boy I would lie down with him on my bed just as he would start to stir or cry.  This way he would just barely wake up before I could quickly breastfeed him back to sleep.  This works great if they really don't want to be awake yet. Sometimes he would then fall back asleep for another hour or two!

2. Routine, routine, routine!  I remember asking my paediatrician about naps when I was a new mum.  "What is normal?" I asked him.  He simply said, "it's totally up to the parents whether or not babies and kids take naps."  I didn't really get it at the time but three kids later I can see what he means.  If you put in very clear routines into your child's day then they will fall into that routine easily and be more likely to nap and stay asleep.  With the first it's easier.  By the time number 2 and 3 come along it can get more difficult as I'm driving around like a crazy woman here and there throughout the day! Some days he has his nap in the car or being carried around in the baby carrier.

3.  Sometimes your baby's nap will happen when they have a long breastfeed.  Even though many of us (myself included) would prefer to have some time during the day by ourselves without a little creature attached to us, sometimes this just doesn't happen and it's totally normal to have those days when they will only sleep while breastfeeding or being held.  For more on this topic check out my previous post on fussy babies: Cranky Baby

4. Keep this mantra in your head, "Once I reach my breaking point my baby will change and all will be peaceful again!"  My mum told me this one and boy is it true.  At times your baby/toddler/child will bring you to the point of insanity (see above illustration) and you will think, "I can't do this anymore! I must sleep! My child must sleep!" They stop taking short naps and all of a sudden start marathon naps and night sleeps.  This just recently happened to me.  I am happy to report that for the past five days my little cherub suddenly decided to take amazingly long daytime naps and sleep in 3-4 hour chunks at night! Hooray! Hooray! Hooray!  This is how I feel now...

5.  Remind yourself that babies have these variations in daytime (and nighttime) sleep for many different reasons.  After those two crazy weeks I realised that he was getting another tooth! The poor thing was in pain and probably as exhausted as me.  I feel great though knowing that during this time I breastfed him, cuddled him and slept by his side as he needed it.  Other times I realised after the fact that he was getting sick.  Also, sometimes babies will change their sleep patterns when they are going through a developmental milestone such as learning to roll over or crawl. Regardless of the reason, it's just about being there for our babies :)  

6. Often my baby will not go down for a nap unless I carry him around in my baby carrier.  He will fall asleep in the carrier and then go through this little routine to get him to finally nap...

-take him out of the carrier and he wakes up
-breastfeed him back to sleep
-put him down and he wakes up again
-breastfeed him back to sleep
-put him down again and will sleep! Yay! My hard work pays off eventually :)
 

And all is happy and peaceful now in my little crazy world...until something else changes and it all starts again :)  The cycle of parenting...




**If you feel as though your baby is having sleep issues or you are experiencing sleep challenges because of frequent breastfeeding, please contact me. I am available for consultations in person if you live on the Sunshine Coast or Brisbane. I am also available via Skype if you are located elsewhere around the world. CONTACT ME to schedule an appointment.
 

*What has worked for you to get your little one sleeping longer during the day? Leave a comment if you have the magical answer!  Please do not include crying it out though. There are many other sites out there where you can discuss that topic. Thanks!

Do you wonder if you should breastfeed your baby to sleep? Have a look at my blogpost on this topic!  Breastfeeding you baby to sleep...what's the big deal?

                       

Breastfeeding through the holidays...the craziness!

With only four days to go until Christmas, I am starting to feel the stress and excitement!  At times like this, it can be difficult taking the time to just sit and breastfeed your baby.  You still have wrapping, baking, cooking, yelling at your other children and mentally preparing yourself for relatives to visit all the while you are breastfeeding and tired.  Or is it just me? 

Here are some common challenges that come along around Christmas time and how to get through it as a breastfeeding mum!

1.  I am shopping and my baby is crying and hungry...

Here I am Christmas shopping with my baby.  Although I drove around for fifteen minutes just to get a park and had to hold my pee in for about three hours, it was still an OK trip since I could breastfeed while holding my baby in my Ergo carrier and still continue to shop.  I was like the energizer bunny! 

First he looked like this....

then like this....

and finally like this...

It was great!  No need to sit in one of the parent rooms with the poop stench and prolong your trip...


Just don't forget to pack nappies and wipes like I did.  Big problem!



2.  I have to breastfeed my baby with my elderly grandmother looking at me.  She never breastfed her babies and will think I'm weird!

There are a few different solutions to this.  First you can remind yourself that your breasts are there to feed your baby.  Some women put a blanket over their babies' heads while breastfeeding while others will go into a different room.  I always just whipped my boob out and breastfed anywhere because as my wise mum always said, "it's only weird if you make it weird!"  By just simply breastfeeding your baby you are telling the world it is normal and boring. Nothing special to look at here folks!

3.  Everyone is getting wasted and I'm here as dry as a pretzel.

The alcohol in your breastmilk is directly related to amount in your body.  Some women choose not to drink at all, others will drink a glass of wine after their baby has gone to bed knowing that when their baby wakes up in 2-3 hours the alcohol will be out of their system and therefore out of their breastmilk.  Alcohol peaks in your breastmilk 30-60 minutes after you drink it, 30-90 when taken with food.  A woman who weighs 54 kilos (120 pounds) will typically take about two to three hours to eliminate one serving of beer or wine. 


4.  Everyone will be here in four days and I'm freaking out!!! Ok, I admit it...this is just my personal thought running through my head at the moment and I'm stressed!! My house is messy! There is little boy pee all over the toilet floor! Cat and dog hair is everywhere! I have so much to do before everyone arrives on Christmas day! AAAAHHHH!!  

Deep breath.  This is what I tell myself...and then I hear my baby crying so I go breastfeed him and think of how thankful I am for my family and everything I have.  Take the time to enjoy your breastfeeding babies and toddlers and enjoy these quiet moments you have with them.  Take the time to just sit and rest.  Take the time to smile at them and sit on the floor with them.  These quiet moments won't last forever...especially when all of your relatives* show up. 

*To my mother-in-law I am of course not talking about you ;)

Breastfeeding Your Baby to Sleep...What's the Big Deal?!

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I remember a dear friend of mine who had a baby a few months after me.  This was way back in time (when I was still young and fresh and had only one grey hair instead of seven) about five years ago. We hung out quite a bit and realized quickly that we mothered our babies very differently!  As I sat there breastfeeding my baby to sleep, she would rock and jiggle and burn off the breakfast she just ate, trying to get her baby to sleep.  She (among many other women out there) went with the "do not let your baby fall asleep at the breast" concept that has been floating around out there for many years.  I have one question....

Where did this concept come from?! Who thought of this in the first place?! I'd like to have a word with them...

Believe me, for all of you out there who have "trained" your baby to fall asleep on their own.  I understand your frustration. I understand why this was your answer.  I understand how difficult the whole sleep issue can be!  I just have a different perspective...

First let's look at normal infant behaviour...

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.....so I squirted some of my milk in his ear. Breastmilk as medicine!

Yes, I am happy to admit it. I have squirted my breastmilk in my son's ear when he had an ear infection. I have also squirted it in his nostrils when he was stuffy.  I have also squirted it in his eye when he had conjunctivitis.  Are you still with me or have you closed out of the post!?

Did you know that breastmilk has incredible anti-bacterial, anti-fungal, anti-infective, moisturizing and just general healing properties to it?  "Human milk is similar to unstructured living tissue, such as blood, and is capable of transporting nutrients, affecting biochemical systems, enhancing immunity, and destroying pathogens" (Riordan & Wambach 2011, p.117).  If this is what it does for our kids from the inside, imagine what it can do topically!

SOME of the incredible components of milk include:

Phagocytes - engulf and absorb pathogens

Lymphocytes- have antiviral activity

Lipase- bacteriocidal activity

Oligosaccharides- microbial and viral ligands

Glycoconjugates- microbial and viral ligands

Lactoferrin- antibacterial

Lysozyme- bacteriocidal and ant-inflammatory

Vitamins A, C, E- anti-inflammatory action


And many  many more...

(Riordan & Wambach 2011, p. 132)


When one of my children has an ailment, whether it is a cut, bug bite, ear ache, sunburn or some general complaint (which happens about fifty times per day) I will always yell out, "I'll just put some of my breastmilk in it!"  They will then either; a. run screaming, "noooo!!!" or b. they will seriously be injured or hurting and go with it :) 

Remember the fembots from Austin Powers?



                                                                                                          

This is what a typical scenario looks like:

I stand like a fembot and threaten a squirt of milk at them.

My youngest (who is blissfully unaware of what is happening) responds like this:

 

my oldest two respond like this:

and off they go running from my milk guns!!!

OK, OK, yes this was just a re-enactment and I assure you I do not squirt it out at them like a fembot! It is often how I feel though in these situations....I just squirt some in a cup and go from there.




Here is a list of some of the things breastmilk can help with:


Ear infections/ache
Conjunctivitis
Snotty noses (especially helpful for infants)
Eczema
Cracked nipples
Cuts and bug bites
Nappy rash

And many more!



Why are we so weird about it? Why is a pill or cream that has been made in a laboratory with chemicals better then what we have right on tap?  Use it! It's free, natural and all you have to do is squirt it out :)


It's also fun to torture your children and husband with the, "I'll just squirt some of my milk on it" line...


*It is important to note here that you must do this numerous times throughout the day for it to work.  You cannot squirt a drop in their eye and hope it clears it up.  You must put a few drops in their ear/eye/nose every couple of hours (when you are awake) for it to help clear it up.*

Riordan, J & Wambach, K 2011, Breastfeeding and human lactation, Jones and Bartlett, Boston.